Selfishness Affects Success

** Written with contribution from the brilliant mind of Joey Aman**

"Graham Hess (Mel Gibson in the movie 'Signs'): People break down into two groups. When they experience something lucky, group number one sees it as more than luck, more than coincidence. They see it as a sign, evidence, that there is someone up there, watching out for them. Group number two sees it as just pure luck. Just a happy turn of chance."

Nowadays, however, we have a third group that think along the lines of " I must have done something right…" accrediting all good things that come by to themselves only, and whenever anything they don't like what happens, they blame it on others. 

This selfishness is somewhat of limited thinking and behavior, and not really of benefit to oneself or others. Feeling the need to always think of oneself, to praise oneself, to accredit oneself, goes against the human nature of both males and females, males in that they are generally the "pack leader" caring for others in one way, and females in that they are the nurturers, also always caring.

In the wise words of Joey Aman, " A lot of people have lost their sense of leadership, and become desensitized to other human beings. They only feel to the extent of making themselves survive, rejecting the responsibility of one's own instincts to be a provider or nurturer, and become just a consumer instead. This leaves a lot of people feeling depressed or empty and searching, filling these gaps with materialistic things that are bought with  money. Their lives are about fast cars, expensive vacations, and showing off success, or even non-success, they just want to show off !! It's come to a time where some people see family and responsibility as a burden that limits their chances of getting to the superficial (there is a more realistic) idea of success. They have become selfish, and have forgotten about humanity, society, communities and working for the betterment of them as a whole. "

Mind you, success is what we are all aspiring to, but we have to ask ourselves, what kind of success do we want, the realistic or the superficial ? The kind where we are only known for what possessions we display, or do we want the kind of success that won't be able to be seen until we've passed away, much like a great artist, but instead of great works of art, it's one's legacy thats left behind in the form of amazing children, lives one has touched and improved, the impact one has had on the world, things that will have a butterfly effect that will echo through the ages, etc ? 

"Driving an expensive car while you lived doesn't give you much worth once you're dead." ~ Joey Aman

"Someone truly successful doesn't die when their heart stops beating, they live forever through the impacts they have made". ~ Joey Aman